Back from a family wedding on Old Cape Cod. Very lavish, very pretty. A bit hot but it didn't rain, despite all the predictions. Interesting. Exhausting. Fun.

The Cape is a strange and mysterious place, quite beautiful at any one location. But if you're driving around it when you're not familiar with it, the landmarks seem to appear, disappear, re-appear. You're in one town, then you leave and move into another town, then suddenly you're back in the first town again, as if only three towns existed, leap-frogging over one another. Dark streets at night with few readable road signs and no lighting. Disorienting. But very pretty by day. And breath-taking vistas can appear suddenly around hidden corners. I suppose the logic of the Cape grows on you when you spend a full summer there--it's hard to take in on a quick weekend jaunt.

I am all in favor weddings, whatever your orientation, gender or sexual preference. Preparing for one may cause more stress and nervousness than one would normally want, but ultimately they do end up providing a memorable celebration of a personal milestone. Anyone who really wants to commit their time, attention and love to one person in these difficult times--God bless 'em! Everyone who can give beyond themselves to someone else deserves all the support we can give them!

Weddings are strange events where you catch up with people related to you. You check in, you see and hear the latest news--but you probably know your friends and co-workers better than you know your own family. You are connected to these people by blood or by marriage. And while folks profess their love and how much they miss you, you can't help but wonder--would they even want to be friends if they weren't relatives? I'm happy to see my kin, of course, but ultimately I want people to "love" me because they find me interesting and genuinely like me--not because I'm their uncle or nephew or cousin. (And those who say "we must get together when we're back in the city" should put their money where their mouths are, so to speak . . . )

Still, a good time was had by all . . .